Jay — thanks so much for sharing your story — I am so very sorry for your loss. I can feel your pain and its obvious how much you loved your wife. She seemed like such a wonderful person. Its so very hard to come to terms with the loss of a spouse especially with young kids involved. I can tell you that even though its hard, it does gets better with time. Try not to blame yourself for anything (especially things outside of your control) and always remember that you did the best you could do under the circumstances. I am now writing a book based on this article that expands on the ways in which we can heal and find purpose in life after tragedies such as this one. I am inspired to do this after hearing many stories like yours. Whenever you feel the crushing weight of grief and loss- remember that her love for you and the kids will be her legacy. In addition, how you grieve and your timeline for grief is unique to you — this is partly what I meant when I said “ignore the naysayers — its your life to live”. Honor her memory the best way you can for both you and the kids. Thanks again for sharing your story.